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It\u0026#39;ll go on this way, back and forth, with her being nice when it suits her, probably forever. She enjoys being able to tell you to stuff it, so you have to not let it get to you, or she wins."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/9077624087290696138/comments/default/1972471034888611843"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/9077624087290696138/comments/default/1972471034888611843"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/and-finally.html?showComment\u003d1259005705669#c1972471034888611843","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Aunt Juicebox"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/09312942310632639442"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"00903330279665235592"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/and-finally.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-9077624087290696138","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/9077624087290696138","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-6411004933709728118"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-23T14:23:08.487-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-23T14:23:08.487-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"What I don't get is why Voldy, and other BMs, inve..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"What I don\u0026#39;t get is why Voldy, and other BMs, invest so much energy into making things difficult. Don\u0026#39;t they get that making it difficult for us often makes it difficult for them too? And then, they don\u0026#39;t want stepmoms involved - like they don\u0026#39;t know how much work (and time, and money etc.) we put in to raising their children.\u003cbr /\u003e*sigh*\u003cbr /\u003eAt least you have the maturity to move on.\u003cbr /\u003eI hear you about wanting an apology. I feel like that would be a huge step in my healing process - just to hear \u0026quot;I\u0026#39;m sorry.\u0026quot; Sadly, I don\u0026#39;t think our ex even realizes she was in the wrong."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/9077624087290696138/comments/default/6411004933709728118"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/9077624087290696138/comments/default/6411004933709728118"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/and-finally.html?showComment\u003d1259004188487#c6411004933709728118","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Eyes Wide Open"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/03049177383854839898"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"13486622219008288145"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/and-finally.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-9077624087290696138","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/9077624087290696138","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-6750758725818108226"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-23T13:31:54.389-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-23T13:31:54.389-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Sounds like you are in a MUCH better place, very v..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"Sounds like you are in a MUCH better place, very very happy for you. That has to feel like a weight lifted off of you and onto her!  Funny how it seems pulling the bio-parent card is a last ditch effort to flex whatever control they think they have.....either way it doesn\u0026#39;t matter. Comparing her to a small stupid child is dead on, my PEG is the same exact way.  It does make a difference when you can let her comments roll off instead of bothering you...not always easy but it sure does help.\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eHope you have a great Thanksgiving!"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/9077624087290696138/comments/default/6750758725818108226"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/9077624087290696138/comments/default/6750758725818108226"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/and-finally.html?showComment\u003d1259001114389#c6750758725818108226","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Life of a Stepmama"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15224137524516150022"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"09098467933676282701"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/and-finally.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-9077624087290696138","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/9077624087290696138","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7840240073006307174"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-20T18:53:25.636-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-20T18:53:25.636-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I am interested to hear how this unfolds...wishing..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I am interested to hear how this unfolds...wishing you the best and time with buttercup!"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/5783058014992307271/comments/default/7840240073006307174"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/5783058014992307271/comments/default/7840240073006307174"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/apology.html?showComment\u003d1258761205636#c7840240073006307174","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Life of a Stepmama"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15224137524516150022"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"09098467933676282701"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/apology.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-5783058014992307271","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/5783058014992307271","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-6447234758374867044"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-18T14:33:58.590-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-18T14:33:58.590-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"My husband is struggling with some of these very s..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"My husband is struggling with some of these very same things (though not pertaining to religion). He feels that he is overcompromising and therefore losing some of himself. What we have learned is that sometimes you just have to put your foot down or selfish exes will just keep taking and taking until there\u0026#39;s nothing left. You\u0026#39;re absolutely right: it may not be the optimal situation for the child, but neither is a parent losing themself.\u003cbr /\u003exo"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/6447234758374867044"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/6447234758374867044"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html?showComment\u003d1258572838590#c6447234758374867044","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Eyes Wide Open"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/03049177383854839898"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"13486622219008288145"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1354315260632933552","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1354315260632933552","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7516468160457404568"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-18T12:03:52.976-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-18T12:03:52.976-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I agree sounds like you handled it all very well a..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I agree sounds like you handled it all very well and you are being supportative of buttercup and her religion which is not yours. That really has to be tough, I cannot imagine.\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eAt her age she should understand the difference and as she gets older I only think that will becomes more clear....hopefully."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/7516468160457404568"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/7516468160457404568"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html?showComment\u003d1258563832976#c7516468160457404568","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Life of a Stepmama"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15224137524516150022"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"09098467933676282701"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1354315260632933552","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1354315260632933552","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-5880708925126189792"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-17T20:03:28.737-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-17T20:03:28.737-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I can't say anything the other ladies haven't alre..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I can\u0026#39;t say anything the other ladies haven\u0026#39;t already said but i think you guys are spot on."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/5880708925126189792"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/5880708925126189792"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html?showComment\u003d1258506208737#c5880708925126189792","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Just Me :)"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/16648107735798779677"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1354315260632933552","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1354315260632933552","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-4831070137813062024"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-17T18:44:39.792-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-17T18:44:39.792-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I think it's perfectly fine for your hubby to expl..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I think it\u0026#39;s perfectly fine for your hubby to explain to buttercup that he has different religious beliefs and I believe she is old enough to understand that.\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI can tell you this (from experience) as she gets older, she will start to see the sacrifices the two of you have made. It is very gratifying as a parent when that starts to happen. \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eParenting is sometimes a very ungrateful job. Please know it\u0026#39;s not always like that. When children accomplish something great, when they exceed your expectations, when they become loving, intelligent young adults... it\u0026#39;s all worthwhile. \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI seem to leave really long comments on your post...sorry!!"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/4831070137813062024"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/4831070137813062024"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html?showComment\u003d1258501479792#c4831070137813062024","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Dual Mom"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/13219625667306878645"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1354315260632933552","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1354315260632933552","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-57591300210977865"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-17T16:59:16.986-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-17T16:59:16.986-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I never realized there were two religous beleifs g..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I never realized there were two religous beleifs going on - wow that would be very tough. It raises a lot of tough questions as you have pointed out - I hope it all balances out..."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/57591300210977865"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/57591300210977865"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html?showComment\u003d1258495156986#c57591300210977865","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Jamie"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/13630435530393671078"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1354315260632933552","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1354315260632933552","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-268005390465064399"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-17T16:38:35.122-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-17T16:38:35.122-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"At this point, Buttercup should realize the differ..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"At this point, Buttercup should realize the differences in religion between you/King and Voldy.  I think you are doing the right thing by being supportive to Buttercup\u0026#39;s beliefs while being true to yourselves.  Don\u0026#39;t feel guilty.  There will be many, many other opportunities for sacrifice."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/268005390465064399"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/268005390465064399"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html?showComment\u003d1258493915122#c268005390465064399","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Sharon"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/10467127841744470807"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"07451667536628187180"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1354315260632933552","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1354315260632933552","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-3587228079313524782"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-17T16:31:21.462-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-17T16:31:21.462-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"What a very hard place to be! Religion is a fast, ..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"What a very hard place to be! Religion is a fast, true battle mankind will always have, and it is very saddening that the battle has to be done in family as it is for you. I pray one day Buttercup will realize how much her father, and you, have sacrificed for her, and how in this one regard, he sacrificed the most by telling her no, while at the same time, sacrificed nothing of himself. \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003e::hugs::"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/3587228079313524782"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1354315260632933552/comments/default/3587228079313524782"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html?showComment\u003d1258493481462#c3587228079313524782","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Chelly"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/08920590728045818153"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"00786289620550793049"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/sacrifice.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1354315260632933552","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1354315260632933552","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-3381397067554277876"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-17T14:27:29.402-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-17T14:27:29.402-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"It seems in our situation, and so many other cases..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"It seems in our situation, and so many other cases that I have worked on.... a majority of altercations happen when someone tries to re-arrange the schedule. So our standard response is........\u003cbr /\u003eWe\u0026#39;re sticking to the schedule. Now as I have posted before about the diliemas we all find ourselves in, this doesn\u0026#39;t always happen and we occasionally forfeit (she refuses make up visits) JUST so Chosen Child can do something she enjoys. \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI agree with your last comment though, said many times myself. :)"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/3381397067554277876"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/3381397067554277876"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258486049402#c3381397067554277876","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"stepfabulous"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15989185827911190094"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-4420817145143490392"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T23:05:36.135-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T23:05:36.135-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I'm sorry that the King had to get disillusioned a..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I\u0026#39;m sorry that the King had to get disillusioned again.  Hopefully this puts the two of you back on the same page and he realizes that you weren\u0026#39;t trying to be unreasonable, that you were just looking out for the two of you.  \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI agree with everyone else, she\u0026#39;d never get another minute of extra time.  The court order would be followed exclusively and that includes this upcoming holiday."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/4420817145143490392"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/4420817145143490392"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258430736135#c4420817145143490392","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Amy"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/11956170526105416459"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-6241212696891505280"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T20:51:25.893-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T20:51:25.893-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I could see it coming many posts ago. I know, beca..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I could see it coming many posts ago. I know, because we used to also try to reason with the unreasonable, and play give and take with a taker. It\u0026#39;s like negotiating with a terrorist.  My advice for the future is for the King to accept that more of the same is in store unless he simply decides to go by the court order and refuse to waiver. Have as little contact as possible, all parties follow the court order and stop giving her all kinds of wiggle room.  My experience tells me that she will never acknowledge the generosity of extra time that he has afforded her because she feels she is entitled. And she will just keep wanting more. \u003cbr /\u003eGood luck on this. I truly feel for you.  I have been there and it was like being stuck in perpetual hell."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/6241212696891505280"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/6241212696891505280"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258422685893#c6241212696891505280","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"kelly"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/07264166662550882301"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7034758556586367295"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T15:52:16.605-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T15:52:16.605-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Blah on them. Good luck working through all that c..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"Blah on them. Good luck working through all that crap. If people could only learn that there is really no place for anger, and that threats don\u0026#39;t help make matters better."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/7034758556586367295"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/7034758556586367295"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258404736605#c7034758556586367295","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Crys"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/10752779435392939989"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-232820882756248984"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T15:33:32.372-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T15:33:32.372-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Oh this sounds like a VERY familar record to me - ..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"Oh this sounds like a VERY familar record to me - the peaces last just long enough that you start to breathe and think maybe??? Than WHAM nope - they are still CRAZY!! I feel for you I really do!!! Good luck!!!"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/232820882756248984"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/232820882756248984"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258403612372#c232820882756248984","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Jamie"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/13630435530393671078"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-8340129604974003418"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T15:30:56.888-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T15:30:56.888-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"She's missing the point here. She needs your and t..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"She\u0026#39;s missing the point here. She needs your and the King\u0026#39;s cooperation to get the extra time she wants. She can wage war all she wants, but 90% of the time it\u0026#39;s HER that\u0026#39;s asking for the extra time, not you guys. Sooo, if she wants to keep being a bitch about, all I can say is, that would be the last time I gave her an extra MINUTE of time. Who\u0026#39;s going to be the most upset about that? I\u0026#39;m sure it won\u0026#39;t be you."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/8340129604974003418"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/8340129604974003418"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258403456888#c8340129604974003418","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Aunt Juicebox"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/09312942310632639442"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"00903330279665235592"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-8751611787748125685"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T15:06:10.788-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T15:06:10.788-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I am really sorry the peace didn't last. ::hugs::"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I am really sorry the peace didn\u0026#39;t last. ::hugs::"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/8751611787748125685"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/8751611787748125685"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258401970788#c8751611787748125685","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Chelly"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/08920590728045818153"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"00786289620550793049"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7513094696410176928"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T13:33:15.957-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T13:33:15.957-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I too am going through a very similar situation wi..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I too am going through a very similar situation with \u0026quot;fairness\u0026quot; issues. C\u0026#39;s BM has physical custody and we get her every other weekend and get to take her to dinner 1 day during the week. BM lives with her Mother because she doesn\u0026#39;t want to work and has two kids of her own. Right now they are ALL living in a hotel because their house has mold. my BF (C\u0026#39;s father) asked that we have C until they fix the mold situation because he doesn\u0026#39;t like the idea of his daughter living in a hotel that the insurance company is willing to pay for (you can imagine how nice it is). BM said no because that\u0026#39;s not fair because it\u0026#39;s her time. Yet she still calls every night telling him how bad the kids (one of which isn\u0026#39;t his) are being wanting to run around the hotel.\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eAll we can do is breathe, and hope for a better tomorrow...\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eMy thoughts are with you and I hope you don\u0026#39;t have to go through another war!"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/7513094696410176928"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/7513094696410176928"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258396395957#c7513094696410176928","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Mary Beth"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15184994514153975894"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-487395308848829486"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T10:53:31.352-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T10:53:31.352-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I'm sorry the peace didn't last.  But I hope this ..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I\u0026#39;m sorry the peace didn\u0026#39;t last.  But I hope this puts you and King back on the same page."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/487395308848829486"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/487395308848829486"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258386811352#c487395308848829486","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Sharon"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/10467127841744470807"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"07451667536628187180"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-3544181601938217641"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-16T10:43:07.942-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-16T10:43:07.942-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I am going through a very similiar situation now, ..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"I am going through a very similiar situation now, all the sudden PEG has mandatory weekend she cannot have the son and has asked the BF to fly up there to have him on those weekends, cause it would be easier for HER. No offer of additional time, or anything for us doing her a favor and you can bet that she would never help us in a state of need. I am so sick of her crap and selfishness. It gets old.  I feel for you and hope some sort of solution is agreed upon, I cannot believe how they are acting."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/3544181601938217641"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/7411359289446421374/comments/default/3544181601938217641"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html?showComment\u003d1258386187942#c3544181601938217641","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Life of a Stepmama"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15224137524516150022"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"09098467933676282701"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-told-you-so.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-7411359289446421374","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/7411359289446421374","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-8973678286689428222"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-15T12:47:14.615-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-15T12:47:14.615-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"The King is NOT saying he doesn't ever want makeup..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"The King is NOT saying he doesn\u0026#39;t ever want makeup time- he IS saying that the time we offered and gave up through sept and oct was a gift, and it\u0026#39;s not worth our going back and getting time back for that.  I can accept that.  \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI am continually chosing not to walk away from it, despite the constant influx of pain.  The wound never gets a chance to heal before another grain of salt is throw on it.   more on this tomorrow."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1945780155271311612/comments/default/8973678286689428222"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1945780155271311612/comments/default/8973678286689428222"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/life-is-fluid.html?showComment\u003d1258307234615#c8973678286689428222","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"dragonflymama"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/02627448392620107868"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"00411677818255843341"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/life-is-fluid.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1945780155271311612","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1945780155271311612","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-5466050546563804266"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-14T16:32:07.636-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-14T16:32:07.636-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"If voldemort is given extra time, there is no reas..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003ci\u003eIf voldemort is given extra time, there is no reason, in my mind, that we should not get an equal amount of extra time in return.... and this is one of the rules I need to still have in place. \u003c/i\u003e \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI echo what Dual Mom is saying. Maybe first confirm that Hubby is as invested as you are in keeping the time even. And, if not, what do you think is driving your need to have even time?\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003e\u003ci\u003eIf you and I split up, or you die, then I have no legal rights to be with Buttercup, ever... all the things I sacrifice and all the time we spend together is invested because I choose to invest it. Not because I am legally bound to, or even because I feel emotionally bound to. I don\u0026#39;t do it because I want to... I do it because it is a choice I make every day to live in a precarious relationship of love with Buttercup that I have no real control over.\u003c/i\u003e\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003ePerhaps this is semantics, but what I hear is that you \u003ci\u003edo\u003c/i\u003e feel emotionally bound to her, you \u003ci\u003edo\u003c/i\u003e want to spend time with her and sacrifice for her, because you love this girl. \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI\u0026#39;m not sure how much control we have over who and how we love someone; and knowing she could be taken from you at any time must be terrifying.\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eTo me, it sounds less like that you\u0026#39;re choosing to invest your love in this precarious step-parenting relationship, but that you are choosing not to walk away from it.\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003e~~~\u003cbr /\u003eYou are a wonderful and amazing woman. I love you. *hugs*\u003cbr /\u003e~~~"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1945780155271311612/comments/default/5466050546563804266"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1945780155271311612/comments/default/5466050546563804266"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/life-is-fluid.html?showComment\u003d1258234327636#c5466050546563804266","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Dina"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/00150678632266193613"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/life-is-fluid.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1945780155271311612","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1945780155271311612","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-608811660864919382"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-13T21:14:01.467-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-13T21:14:01.467-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Wow, it looks as though there is alot going on her..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"Wow, it looks as though there is alot going on here that\u0026#39;s causing some trouble. I\u0026#39;m going to say a few things but I want you to know that I\u0026#39;m not saying them to upset you, I have no reason to do so. I just want to offer you an opinion from the other side. I totally respect what you\u0026#39;re going through. You\u0026#39;re love for buttercup is obvious. Your efforts to make this work are undeniable.\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI\u0026#39;m reading between the lines here a bit and you can correct me if I\u0026#39;m wrong, but does your hubby want to give her extra time, without getting extra time in return? If that\u0026#39;s the case, I think you need to try and step back. If this is what he wants for his daughter, I think you should consider letting him. What he has to understand is that Butterfly\u0026#39;s schedule affects you, and both he and Voldemort need to be considerate of that. If he chooses not to consider your need to schedule these things, then he needs to accept that you may not be available to help out with Butterfly during unscheduled times.\u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI think you need to decide whether or not you can live with the fact that Voldemort is never going to accept you as a coparent. This does not mean she has any right to disrespect you. But it appears as though this is a losing battle and you have to decide whether it\u0026#39;s a battle you\u0026#39;re willing to \u0026quot;die\u0026quot; over, so to speak. \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eThese are my opinions only. I really do feel for you and all that you\u0026#39;re trying to deal with."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1945780155271311612/comments/default/608811660864919382"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1945780155271311612/comments/default/608811660864919382"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/life-is-fluid.html?showComment\u003d1258164841467#c608811660864919382","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Dual Mom"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/13219625667306878645"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/life-is-fluid.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1945780155271311612","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1945780155271311612","type":"text/html"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-6570942542475165213"},"published":{"$t":"2009-11-13T12:20:49.637-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2009-11-13T12:20:49.637-05:00"},"title":{"type":"text","$t":"You seem to have communicated your feelings very c..."},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"You seem to have communicated your feelings very clearly here, so hopefully he\u0026#39;ll take it to heart. \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eOne problem I feel has been ongoing with Voldy is not so much that she doesn\u0026#39;t want to co-parent with YOU, but that she would allow HER husband to be a co-parent, but NOT YOU. I think that\u0026#39;s the bigger issue. It\u0026#39;s ok for him to be involved, because he\u0026#39;s her husband, but YOU are worthless to her. Honestly as a mother, I think you do understand a little that Buttercup IS her child, and were you and the King ever to split up, you might not like it if another woman tried to take over your parental duties and be a mother to your son. But in being a stepmother as well, you know what it\u0026#39;s like to be pushed aside and made to feel useless when you do so much. That\u0026#39;s the bane of being in a blended family, somebody always gets hurt. \u003cbr /\u003e\u003cbr /\u003eI don\u0026#39;t know if you\u0026#39;ll ever have a better relationship with Voldy, but don\u0026#39;t let it get in the way of your relationship with the King. Being with him and your son, and keeping your own part of the family unit intact is far more important than worrying about Voldy\u0026#39;s petty bullcrap. She would love nothing more than to drive a wedge between the two of you. Don\u0026#39;t let her."},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1945780155271311612/comments/default/6570942542475165213"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/1945780155271311612/comments/default/6570942542475165213"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/life-is-fluid.html?showComment\u003d1258132849637#c6570942542475165213","title":""}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Aunt Juicebox"},"uri":{"$t":"http://www.blogger.com/profile/09312942310632639442"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$extendedProperty":{"xmlns$gd":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005","name":"OpenSocialUserId","value":"00903330279665235592"}}],"thr$in-reply-to":{"xmlns$thr":"http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0","href":"http://stepmamastory.blogspot.com/2009/11/life-is-fluid.html","ref":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834199813933441287.post-1945780155271311612","source":"http://www.blogger.com/feeds/834199813933441287/posts/default/1945780155271311612","type":"text/html"}}]}});